Pros:
- College kids (on the whole) have really lost sight of what a date even is. Asking someone on a date is sort of like saying, “I think I may have romantic interest in you, and I would like to determine the intensity of my attraction. Also, I’d like to know if these feelings are reciprocated. Let’s spend time together!” Asking someone on a date is not sort of like saying “Wanna get married? I was thinking May. How do you feel about daffodils?” This first concept of dating is very appealing to me.
- Asking someone on a date, as a girl, gives you mad confidence points. Even if you’re turned down, you’ve done an awesomely bold thing and you should feel good about yourself for at least a few days. This is why, if you are ever thinking, “Should I ask that guy on a date?” the answer is YES. It is win-win (or so you will tell yourself).
- In third grade, my mom told me that I absolutely should not tell Yar that I had a crush on him, because then he would run away. Girls are supposed to play their cards close to their chests. Asking someone on a date would be such an act of rebellion, and I love those.
- I think girls ought to have more agency when it comes to our love lives. The status quo usually involves standing around on a dance floor, waiting for a stranger to try to hump you. There really must be a better option.
Cons:
- Newsflash: Rejection sucks.
- Because girls don’t usually do the date-asking, sometimes people are inclined to assume that if a girl asks somebody on a date, that girl must be simply overwhelmed with passion. Overwhelming passion scares people. so the person you’re asking might say no on that basis (they might be down to catch coffee with you in a romantic setting, but they don’t want to run away with you to southern France). This is why it is important to be clear with your intentions.
- When you’re asked on a date, you already know that the other person is interested. When you do the asking, you don’t — even if they say yes, they might just be being nice. If you’re looking for a good case of insomnia, consider this possibility for a while.
Image source: My instagram. Unfortunately, this man is taken. If he weren’t, I would so ask him on a date.
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